A big idea that I've borrowed from Stoicism is to make the best of bad situations. You can't control events, but you can control how you *respond* to events. The goal is not to avoid negative or unpleasant experiences, but to do your best to make the most of them. The obstacle is the way, and all that.
But what if I literally can't get myself to do the things to take advantage of events, even if I want to? What the fuck does that mean? Am I simply not trying hard enough? Am I a bad person?